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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-19 05:09 pm
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an un-munch

I went to the leather dyke munch at CC's yesterday evening, and discovered that it wasn't officially happening. CC's was hosting a private event whose theme was Studio 54.

But! Not to be deterred, organizatrices B&A had set up an unofficial munch in an out-of-the-way part of the bar. There were no bootblacks, to the disappointment of two of us with scuffed boots including me. Nevertheless, there was queer & kinky conversation be had, and meeting of peeps. Rather good, even if once again I was way older than nearly everyone there. (If I remember correctly B is 12 years younger than I am, and they're the next oldest.)

Oh: apparently the Cuff may be a once and future leather bar. Its takeover by twinks or A-gays may have been temporary; I didn't quite follow everything that was going on.

I shall definitely return next month! With scuffed boots. Meanwhile, I await the arrival of the Tickler.
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Michael Hanscom ([personal profile] djwudi) wrote2025-07-19 04:32 pm

Home: Habitat, Range, Niche, Territory by Martha Wells

Book 40 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

Another very short glimpse into the world around Murderbot. Brief as it is, I really liked the look at how Mensah is dealing with the trauma and PTSD of her experiences, and how Murderbot is integrating into its new situation. They way these two are relying on each other is really nice.

Me holding Home on my iPad

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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Michael Hanscom ([personal profile] djwudi) wrote2025-07-16 05:53 pm

Rapport: Friendship, Solidarity, Communion, Empathy by Martha Wells

Book 38 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

A short story in the Murderbot universe, but without Murderbot, instead following one of the other characters. Answers some of the outstanding questions about this character in very interesting ways, but I suspect there is much more coming later in the series.

Me holding Rapport on my iPad

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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Michael Hanscom ([personal profile] djwudi) wrote2025-07-15 05:50 pm

Compulsory by Martha Wells

Book 37 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

A very quick read (just a few pages). Chronologically comes before All Systems Red, but I’m glad I found out about it and read it after reading Artificial Condition, as it takes place at a time frequently referenced in that book. Just a tiny little glimpse into Murderbot’s past.

Me holding Compulsory on my iPad

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-16 01:02 pm
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The United Sister Front advances.

So Good Sister asked a couple of days ago for the info that she'd need to set up a wire transfer. I got it to her, natch. It's so nice to talk to her on the phone when she's not stressing about something related to Mom, living or dead. The last time that happened was what, 2017?

And I even found something out about Evil Sister. She's moved out into the country, but she didn't change jobs, so now she's got a commute that's about 30 miles (50 km) each way. Even when I had a car I would have considered that bananas, but I'm a city girl to the bone.

And on the subject of big cities, here in the upper left corner of the coterminous US I'm preparing to visit the upper right corner: New York City. I've booked a COVID shot. I know that A-at-the-Merc told me that all the fun is in Brooklyn & Queens, but that's musical fun. The museums, queer stuff, and kinky stuff are still mainly in Manhattan, so I'm keeping my hotel reservation there. If, Goddess willing, the house closes and I suddenly end up with a fat stack of cash, I may spring for someplace nicer.

Besides, I'm not afraid to use a MetroCard should I feel a dire need to get to the outer boroughs*. But in truth, the one place far afield that I really want to go to is QXT's, a giant Goth joint in Newark, NJ. (!) A says it's the stuff, and I'm inclined to believe her. It's near a commuter train station, apparently, but more research is needed.



*That's right, kids, I'm hip to the Big Apple lingo.
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cupcake_goth ([personal profile] cupcake_goth) wrote2025-07-16 12:37 pm

Still fangirling six days later

The MCR concert was amazing. They are performing the entire album of The Black Parade, but they've turned it into a weird theatre show with a different storyline than the usual album. The theme is kinda-sorta a fever dream of cold war Russia? With the band being state ordered performers to distract the masses? There's a mock election that the audience participates in, there's a "state official" who comes on stage to hand Gerard some sort of papers that Gerard rips up, there's fire, there's flashing lights, and it's all very weird and fantastic.

The band themselves were obviously having a fantastic time. Ray Toro (lead guitar) kept smiling all night, and Gerard was glorying in his punk rock theatre kid dream. And the sound for the show was some of the best mix I've heard at concerts. 

After they finished with The Black Parade, the encore was songs from their other albums, letting them flail around even more. The high points for me were "Heaven Help Us" (a b-side from The Black Parade), and my two favorite songs from their first album, "Our Lady of Sorrows", and "Vampires Will Never Hurt You". MY SONG THEY PLAYED MY FAVORITE SONG. I was hoping for "Thank You for the Venom", but the other three songs made up for it.

In other words, MY G-D the show was amazing, and I am ecstatic that I'm going to SF this weekend to see them a second time. 

(Oh, and Gerard is still cute. My precious rock star crush object!)

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The Queen of Inadvertent Alienation ([personal profile] lil_m_moses) wrote2025-07-14 11:28 pm
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The Only Way Out is Through?

A part of me envies my mom's lack of memory these days. I was telling her about some of the latest bullshit going down in DC, and she was incredulous, but she won't remember how fucked up everything is. I just have to try not to think too hard about it all day every day. At least I have plenty to keep me busy.

On a sunnier note, had my annual review today and they still like me a lot. My boss is probably going to be stepping back, as he gets older and has his first grandchild on the way. I got asked if I'd be willing to step up. *gulp* I don't think I can do all of it, but I can try for at least part of it. I'm so swamped already, though. I need to figure out some efficiencies, or just do a little less -thorough- a job on some stuff.

Broader changes are also coming down the pike, as we're in the process of being acquired in a few months, after some legal stuff clears (like changing ownership of our US ground stations for licensing purposes). It's a little scary that the head of the acquiring company knows my name (in a good way)!

I still have no idea where I'm going to carve out time to get Mom living somewhere safer. Furnace guy came out and checked everything out, but didn't find anything, so the stove's gas supply is staying off. This week and next are full of Mom's doctor appointments, Lillian's ceramics class, another class the week after next, one customer's launch, another customer's final integration testing prep, and Josh's parents coming to town for most of a week. I finally got work's monthly invoicing & reporting cycle closed out tonight, but the next one's coming quick. I notionally have a few days off to spend with the in-laws next week, but one of them is likely to be launch day, so that's at least one day down. And then a week after they leave, Lillian's grandfather is coming for almost 2 weeks.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-13 10:15 am
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Nun geeks out on her own front yard.

I have a tiny little front yard garden. It came with a couple of sourwood trees, half a dozen oakleaf hydrangeas, "Sky Pencil" Japanese holly, and two one species of bush that I haven't identified yet. (Yeah, I know there's an app for that. The Tickler has it, so I can ask them.)

What's interesting, though, is the ecological succession. When I first moved in, I had lots of bare bark mulch and plenty of golden orb weaver spiders. The spiders are no longer quite so prominent, and clover covers most of the bark mulch now. I haven't tried to remove the clover because a) that would be too much work, b) the bees love it, and c) I don't have anywhere near enough capacity in my little yard waste bin for it. Seriously, I fill that bin weekly for months in the spring & summer as it is just pulling up dandelions & thistles. The Tickler says they've never seen clover grow as tall as it does at my place, and I haven't either.

But wait! There's more! Willowherb, with tiny pink flowers, is a native plant that's volunteered in the last couple of years. I'm also leaving it alone because pretty.

And then, over just the last year, the yarrow arrived in grand style. It's now taller than I am, with plenty of inflorescences. Its biomass rivals the clover, so I'm leaving it alone for the same reasons as the clover.

At this point it's all I can do to keep the lavenders I planted from getting choked by clover or shaded by yarrow. I replaced some hydrangeas with lavender because the former don't handle the dry summers nearly as well. Indeed, a common theme here is drought tolerance: lavender and yarrow come through the dry Seattle summer (yes, we have them) without any trouble, the clover and willowherb turn brown but bounce right back in the spring, and the poor hydrangeas & Japanese hollies just burn unless they get lots of shade. I replaced the sun-damaged holly with oregano & thyme back in the spring, to my great satisfaction.

Since clover is a legume, I can't help wonder if the symbiotic nitrogen fixation that happens in legumes (the subject of my dad's Ph.D. thesis!) is preparing the way for species like willowherb and, more dramatically, yarrow.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-13 09:37 am
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First a celebration, then (maybe) something to celebrate.

I spent a couple of hours at the Merc last night*. Said hi to A&J. A had some recommendations about having fun in New York City. First, stay in Brooklyn or Queens because the normies have taken Manhattan and all the nighttime fun is in the outer boroughs and even New Jersey. Second, regular club nights aren't really a thing due to the vile economics of NYC real estate. Sure, fun happens, but not, for example, monthly fun.

I also saw [profile] aaminahlefae. If I'm going to think impure thoughts about another woman, it helps that she's a) queer and b) not that much younger than I am. But she, like A, was there with a brand new dude. Between that and the hand-holding femmes, it was an unsubtle reminder that I gotta git me a woman. But first I needed to stop coughing.

Speaking of the vile economics of real estate, Good Sister waited until after 0900 her time to text the other two of us one more thing to sign. I do believe we have gone pending, to close Aug. 11th if all goes atypically well. Do you remember that scene in The Lord of The Rings where Aragorn releases the ghost army after they've disposed of a bunch of orcs? Good Sister is the ghost army.

If that date is when it happens — I'm deathly afraid of jinxing it — it won't be a minute too soon for me either; I have plans for that cash starting with repaying the balance of my 401(k) loan. I was telling [profile] aaminahlefae that I'd like to get more work done on my face if I can afford it. Given the Situation, though, I may end up sitting on it.



*Shallow fashion details: little flowy sleeveless black dress from Blackwood Castle, gladiator sandals, collar with big silver angel wings. Because I'm a Florida girl and I know how to dress for (relatively) warm weather.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-12 05:35 pm
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Nearly an heiress, and nearly virus-free.

That stupid cold — my COVID test came up negative — made up in brevity for what it lacked in manners. Good thing, too, because I'd like to be social this evening without spreading the ick. Maybe Shin Black ramen with fishcake helped me recover quickly.

Meanwhile, on the opposite coast, the offers and counter-offers for Mom's house have been flying. Work was busy yesterday, so between meetings I was sneaking a peek at documents and frantically signing them. If we lost a sale because if I was too slow and Good Sister flew out here and cut me into easy-to-carry sections, no jury would convict her at this point.
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Michael Hanscom ([personal profile] djwudi) wrote2025-06-30 07:51 pm

Pyramids by Terry Pratchett

Book 34 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

This one didn’t grab me as much as others in the series have so far. Not bad at all, and certainly has its amusing moments, but more of a “sure, this was fine” than a “I can see why so many people are so into this series” entry.

Me holding Pyramids on my iPad

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-10 06:38 am
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*Sniffle.* *Cough.*

I spent yesterday in bed with mucus, aches, and reading material to keep me company. The irony here is that the only crowds I was around for the whole Fourth of July weekend were at Uwajimaya, and I wasn't there that long. I did go to Lambert House on Monday, and given how stuffy it was in the carriage house at St. Mark's, I'd put my money on that as the source of the ick.

Finished Gideon the Ninth by Tamsyn Muir. Pretty good characters. Action and plot complicated to the point of frenzy. It doesn't have what The Expanse has: the thing that makes me want to buy the next book right away. But I wasn't in the mood to read something challenging; see "sick" above.

Oh yeah: Good Sister texted & called me while I was in bed to give me the play-by-play on all the hot, hot real estate action. (Did I just make a sexual allusion involving real estate agents? That's so not my kink.) It's looking to me as if this might actually happen in the next few weeks, but you know what they say: never count your chickens before they rip your lips off.
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cupcake_goth ([personal profile] cupcake_goth) wrote2025-07-09 03:06 pm

Buy yourself the motivation

Remember how I said the Wegovy has cut down on the impulse shopping noise in my brain? It still has, but when a bunch of things on my "to buy someday Real Soon Now" all have sales over the 4th of July weekend? Yeah, I spent a lot of money. But this means that a dress, jacket, pendant, and art book were less than they had been, so yay?

... and this will certainly keep me from buying ALL THE MERCH at the MCR concert. Yes, it will. 

:: shifty eyes ::
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cupcake_goth ([personal profile] cupcake_goth) wrote2025-07-08 02:25 pm

Betrayed by deliciousness

On Sunday night I ordered pork spring rolls from my favorite place with the idea of having one for dinner, and one for lunch the following day. As I was taking the second bite of my dinner, the Stroppy One turned to me and said that it had way more garlic than usual. He was right, because as he was saying that, I noticed my mouth and lips were burning and felt like welts were rising. I got a refund from DoorDash, and gave the Madwoman in the Attic the second spring roll. Sooooo apparently I'm even more sensitive to garlic than I thought, and I'm really mad about it.

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My Chemical Romance alert! There's a post on Tumblr that's about the runup to the show with details being constantly added. Apparently setup for the concert has already started, which is unusual. I wonder if that's why there's more time between concert dates; I'd assumed it was because the band finally learned they need to rest between shows, but maybe not. The band has been hinting on social media that these concerts are "so much more than just playing The Black Parade". Needless to say, the fandom has collectively been losing our minds. 

(THE CONCERT IS THIS FRIDAY FRIDAY FRIDAY!!!)

Yes, looking forward to this concert is one of the few things helping me cling to sanity right now.


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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-08 12:24 pm
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Because of course there's a hitch.

Good Sister is scrambling to find an electrician to get all the outlets working in Mom's house. One of the contractors ran into an issue, and GS tells me that niece E had found non-functional outlets months ago at least. Oh by the way, since those are (mostly?) the original outlets from 1974, they look unattractively old. GS already had GFIs installed, which weren't there originally: if memory serves, they weren't required until 1975.

My sister has already gone through the informal hiring route — a co-worker of E's, as I recall — and found it wanting. There may be an open house this weekend, so the pressure is on. However, our agent is sanguine, and Good Sister says that interest in the place is robust.

But y'know, it just sort of figures that there'd be one last damn thing having to do with Mom and her house. I'm honestly amazed that GS limited her venting to maybe a minute; she's certainly earned more.

She wanted to know what price ranges I was willing to accept. I'm deeply unwilling to be a hardass because a) I don't feel like gambling with stakes this high, and b) I don't want my poor middle sister to have an aneurysm because I dragged this out too long. I don't know what Evil Sister's feelings are on the subject, but I'm pretty sure there are limits to her evil.
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sistawendy ([personal profile] sistawendy) wrote2025-07-07 02:12 pm
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My mom's house is listed online.

Good Sister texted me a few hours ago to tell me that the house I grew up in is back in the online listings. There are an even hundred photos of it, including several shots from a drone. It's a little the worse for wear since the five of us moved in in 1974, but the updates since then are mostly for the better in terms of salability. To quote GS, "Sell, baby, sell."

I haven't lived in that house year round in forty years. I found myself mentally reconstructing what each room looked like in the seventies and eighties. If only the walls could tell what they've seen and heard: my sisters' dramatic teen angst, my furtive gender explorations, my mother's drunkenness, my father swearing as he hurt himself during house and garden projects. But also music echoing off the floors as one of us practiced; the dinner table conversations that so often seemed to degenerate into something, well, degenerate; all the plants that I didn't know were exotic and the Florida critters right outside the doors.

Could it have been better? In that time and place, with my parents and sisters, probably not. And it sure as hell could have been worse.

I hope it becomes a good home again for somebody soon, and not just because of the money.