a fit of FOMO

Jun. 17th, 2025 04:08 pm
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I somehow just found out this morning that there's to be a second Catwalk reunion this Friday. Ordinarily I'd be all over that like white on rice, but there are two problems: a) I've already agreed to help Dance move on Saturday morning, the irony here being that she was the one who told me about the Catwalk; b) my favorite vampire witch queen will not be in attendance; and c) there's a regular event, the women's Leather munch, at C.C. Attle's earlier in the evening that I wanted to check out.

I've said it before, but it bears repeating: when I am Imperatrix Mundi, I will schedule all club nights and shows to my own satisfaction. All shall love me and despair show up and groove.

After making dinner for m'boy on Saturday night, I'm sure I can think of something to do. And there's Pride a week later. Aw to the yeah.

book: The Expanse series

Jun. 16th, 2025 08:41 pm
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This evening I finished The Expanse, all nine volumes of it. Is it lit'racha? Well, maybe. Is it solid, fairly hard sci-fi? Definitely. Is it readable? Oh em gee! It basically ate my brain for nearly three months. Action! Adventure! Aliens! Intrigue! Lingo! Dangerous women, some with serious mental health issues!

It feels weird to be back, sa sa?

Weekly Notes: June 9–15, 2025

Jun. 15th, 2025 08:33 pm
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  • 🎓 This week was commencement week for Highline College! This year, for the first time, we held commencement at the Emerald Downs horse racing facility, and while there were the occasional minor hiccups you might expect with any first-time venue experience, overall, I think it went really well. Hopefully the post-commencement feedback we get is generally in agreement, because I liked this much better than using the local stadium. (Still not as nice as on-campus, but that presents its own set of logistical headaches.)
  • 🇺🇸 Saturday was the No Kings protest, and from my perspective and all the reports I’ve seen since, it went really well, both locally and nationally. Upwards of 70,000 participants in the Seattle Capitol Hill rally and march to the Seattle Center that we went to, with no agitators, no property damage, and virtually nonexistent police presence (I didn’t see any until just before the march reached the Seattle Center, when there were four in regular day wear casually chatting with people walking by, and just as we were leaving, we did see a group of 10 or so bike cops staged in a side street). It felt good. And we need to keep doing this.

📸 Photos

Wide panoramic shot of the Seattle Center's International Fountain crowded with post-march protesters, with the Space Needle in the background under a blue sky with fluffy white clouds.
People relaxing at the Seattle Center at the conclusion of the march.

Seen from behind, a marcher holds up a large piece of cardboard with the IKEA logo.
It always amuses me when people only decorate one side of their cardboard, because it looks like they’re somewhat confused about their messaging.

A marcher in a crowd holding up a sign that says, "hot girls hate fascists".
This one, seen at the start of the march, made me laugh.

Wide shot of a lot of people wearing graduation robes and caps standing on paths between green hedges.
Students, staff, and faculty, lining up for the commencement processional.

An AV control room with three people watching lots of banks of monitors, most of which are showing an image of a graduation speaker at a podium with captions at the bottom of the image.
Since I’m part of the behind-the-scenes tech team (specifically for me, making sure captioning works properly), this was my view of the ceremony. Not a bad way to do it at all!

An AV control board with lots of banks of brightly colored and lit buttons, with a silver t-shaped control lever that looks suspiciously like the one used during the Death Star's firing sequence….
Unfortunately, since all of this equipment was actually in use, I couldn’t actually pretend I was firing the Death Star. (The shot of the Death Star weapon control lever being moved used a Grass Valley 1600 video switcher, specifically, one from KCET, Los Angeles’s PBS station.)

📚 Reading

Read Clarkesworld Issue 225 and the first issue of Heavy Metal magazine’s relaunch.

🔗 Linking

  • Sheena Goodyear at CBC Radio: Every year, folks travel from far and wide watch this giant pencil get sharpened: “Once a year, the massive piece of pop art becomes an interactive community art installation. Hundreds — or sometimes even thousands — of people make their way to Higgins’ house in Minneapolis to watch the giant pencil get sharpened with a giant pencil sharpener.”
  • Jack Tamisiea at Science: Cockatoos have learned to operate drinking fountains in Australia: “Every cockatoo exhibited slight variations in its plan of attack. But the general strategy was the same: Each placed one or both of its feet on the fountain’s twist handle, then lowered its weight to twist the handle clockwise and prevent it from springing back up. As the parrots slurped water from the bubbling spout, their sharp beaks often left behind chew marks on the fountain’s rubber top.”
  • RSSRSSRSSRSS: Combine multiple RSS feeds into one unified feed.
  • Nikki Mccann Ramirez, Naomi Lachance, Asawin Suebsaeng, Andrew Perez, and Stephen Rodrick at Rolling Stone: Trump’s Military Birthday Parade Was A Gross Failure: “An aerial parade of historic military aircraft flew above the National Mall, traversing a course from the Lincoln Memorial to the Washington Memorial that — despite clear anticipation of crowds by event organizers — was more empty field and food truck line than crowd.”
  • Doug Landry on X (but this is a ThreadReader link): I just got back from the Trump parade and I have to say it was legitimately the worst executed mass attendance event I’ve ever seen. The full thread is worth reading for some seriously good schadenfreude.
  • Nataliya Kosmyna, Eugene Hauptmann, Ye Tong Yuan, Jessica Situ, Xian-Hao Liao, Ashly Vivian Beresnitzky, Iris Braunstein, Pattie Maes at Cornell University: Your Brain on ChatGPT: Accumulation of Cognitive Debt when Using an AI Assistant for Essay Writing Task: “While LLMs offer immediate convenience, our findings highlight potential cognitive costs. Over four months, LLM users consistently underperformed at neural, linguistic, and behavioral levels. These results raise concerns about the long-term educational implications of LLM reliance and underscore the need for deeper inquiry into AI’s role in learning.”

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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Tacoma Girl came to the Devil Girl House late yesterday afternoon. She basically hung out for five hours while we chatted, ate my very first (?!) homemade guacamole, and checked out my four new homemade devil girls high up on my living room walls. All my mead and non-dark beer are now just... gone. And then Tacoma Girl proposed going to the Wildrose.

You know I said yes to that. Tacoma Girl hadn't been to the 'Rose on a Saturday night, and she was vexed by the cheeziness of the music and the number of apparent het dudes walking around. As for the former, I've just accepted that the assertion that lesbians have no taste is all too often true. Terrific queer women DJs exist around here and I've met them*, but they never seem to end up at big, regular club nights.

As for the presence of dudes, I'm really reluctant to gatekeep those guys because I've been the target of that kind of thing myself. Trans women avoided the 'Rose entirely before its current ownership bought the place in 2000. The number of men in the joint didn't wreck the vibe for me, but obviously TG has a different take on things.

After the Wildrose I turned Tacoma Girl onto the joy that is Betsutenjin, the tiny ramen joint a block away. Good thing, too, because that was basically dinner and much needed electrolytes.

It's a minor miracle that I'm neither hung over nor low on sleep. I think I hydrated just enough.



*Trinitron comes to mind immediately. Miss Shelrawka is another. I liked Coral Slater, but I think she's moved out of the area.

Heavy Metal 001

Jun. 14th, 2025 06:55 am
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Book 32 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

If you know much of anything about Heavy Metal, you know what to expect with this relaunch of the long-running comic anthology series. Sci-fi/fantasy/horror comics and art (often of the “muscle bound men and women wearing a whole lot of not very much no matter how impractical that might be” variety, of course). As the relaunch issue, this also has several short essays about the history of the magazine and some of the artists who have been involved, particularly Greg Hildebrandt, who died between painting the cover (of the edition I have) and when it was published. Though I was never a subscriber, I’d found the occasional issue, and certainly saw the movie (and have had it in my collection for years, even if it’s not a regular watch), and it’s good to know that the magazine is still going, and that it’s still exactly what your inner ’80s adolescent has been looking for.

Me holding Heavy Metal relaunch issue 1

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

nunly outings

Jun. 14th, 2025 06:10 am
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I haven't been silent the last four days because I was in a funk or anything, even if that would be a reasonable supposition. No, I've been out & about.

Thursday: latex dinner. A one-liter beer & schnitzel on Capitol Hill. The organizers were worried that we wouldn't be able to get enough space without a rezzo, but if you get enough rubber-clad freaks together, anything is possible. Yes, eye candy, but also listening to a fellow techie talk about the stress of dealing with a layoff from a certain local tech giant. Oy. I feel you, bro. And if I had any sense I'd get ready.

Speaking of work, I've been caught between the Scylla of security and the Charybdis of customer satisfaction. But I'm not facing it alone, and because I'm a social butterfly I've been made aware of options that I didn't know I had. Excelsior?

My son passed along an invitation to Ex's birthday dinner just hours before I was going to buy groceries to cook dinner for him. Good timing, kiddo. So yesterday he drove me all the way to Chuck's Hop Shop in Seward Park, where apparently they do real food more or less, and talked to Ex & her Mr. Right Now*.

Ex asked me if I was making plans to bug out of the US. Not seriously, I told her. A couple of other things she said prompted me to ask about her anxiety meds. There are things I miss about my ex, but her anxiety disorder is not among them. I'm not proud to say that when I first noticed her being worried & afraid about things that didn't really make sense not long after we met, I snickered at it. I didn't know what it was until years later. Moral: if you're in a new relationship and something seems off, don't ignore it.



*She's been dating him for what, ten years now? Fifteen? I can't even remember. But she really did call him that once.

Thankful Thursday

Jun. 12th, 2025 11:18 pm
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New glasses! 

Even better, it's new lenses set into a titanium frame! Lightweight and reusing something I already have. 

Got trash out early. 

Got new Malka Older novella!

High temps are back in the 60s and possible rain. :)  
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- My Chemical Romance released a remastered version of Three Cheers for Sweet Revenge. I managed to resist the lure of the various editions of the vinyl, and only bought the CD and digital download. DAMN. The difference in the songs! Predictably I've listened to nothing but this since Saturday. 

- I booked a haircut! With this stylist! I'm excited and a little nervous, because I haven't had any sort of haircut since early 2020, and even then it was just trimming the split ends. This time I'm going to have my hair cut to bottom bra band length, and ask what they can do to enhance the waviness/curl my hair has developed. 

- The Wegovy is slowly working. I'm losing a pound a week without really changing anything other than eating smaller meals. The "Ooooh, snack! Let's have just a bit more of this because it's so tasty" noise in my head has stopped, which means I'm not constantly thinking about food. Another really odd side-effect (that lots of folks have discussed over on Reddit) is that the urge to impulse shop has stopped. I still windowshop a lot, but I don't buy anything. Weird, but I'm not complaining.
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Book 31 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️

My favorite this month was “In the Shells of Broken Things” by A. T. Greenblatt.

Me holding Clarkesworld 225 on my iPad

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

found: the right Thai place

Jun. 10th, 2025 06:40 am
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Just a few blocks down the hill from the Devil Girl House are five (5) Thai restaurants, a majority of which have disappointed me. I finally got around to trying the fifth and farthest the other day: Kaosamai. They gave me a verbal warning about the spiciness. "Understood", I said, and then proceeded to make myself hiccup with four-star eats. I'll be back.

Nice place! They have a big deck, and it's right next to Nectar.

Saturday club hopping

Jun. 9th, 2025 06:19 am
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I finally made it to the Modular monthly at Substation. Usually it's on a Sunday at 1700, but this time it was on a Saturday at 1900. It's exactly what the name suggests: a bunch of people pushing buttons and tweaking knobs on modular synthesizers. Yeah, you know that crowd was nerdy. And I'm pretty sure I wasn't the only trans lady there.

But did I like the choonz? Quite often, yeah! Honorable mention: local boy EZBOT, who reminded me by turns of Aphex Twin, drum & bass, and several others. I was a little ambivalent about club hopping to the Mercury after two of the eight (!) artists that they had lined up.

So why club hop to the Merc? Caturday, Pride edition, which I used as an excuse to wear my "I [Pride heart] [beaver graphic]" tank top. I was hoping to run into some of the trans girls from the other day. Instead, I saw a lady in a butterfly costume like the ones I saw in Sydney. In a fit of nostalgia, I went over to talk to her. Imagine my surprise when I realized it was Temptress.

Fun fact about me: like my mother, I have the world's worst poker face. I may have looked absolutely horrified at her, but only for a second. Had her vile boyfriend been with her, I wouldn't have even gone over there. I chatted about Sydney, maybe a bit nervously.

Despite being seriously caffeinated, I didn't make it to midnight. I did to a ton of bike riding and chores around the house on Saturday, so I don't feel like too much of a geezer. I have to get the Devil Girl House ready for Tacoma Girl on Saturday. (The joke here is that TG is probably the least judgy person I know.)

The Vorkosigan Saga

Jun. 7th, 2025 11:24 am
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And that’s it — this morning, I finished off Lois McMaster Bujold’s Vorkosigan Saga. A little under two years (non-consecutively; many other books have been read in between these) of the adventures of Miles Vorkosigan and his family, friends, and enemies.

A complete collection of Vorkosigan saga novels in mass market paperback, arranged in internal chronological order.

This was neither planned nor expected. I started because I’m reading my way through all the Hugo Best Novel winners, and several of the Vorkosigan books are on that list, I continued because even though neither romance nor military sci-fi are genres I usually go for, the books are just so good that they pulled me in. (And, well, I don’t like coming into a series midway through if I can help it, so I had to read the books that were earlier or in between the Hugo winners.)

Bujold’s characters are wonderfully realized. Not always heroes or even particularly heroic (and sometimes rather disturbing), but always very real. The books are funny — I wouldn’t really call any of them comedies, but they are frequently comedic. And the world building (over multiple worlds scattered across a wormhole-connected galaxy) is great, with cultures that are obviously related while also being very separate and distinct.

All in all, while I certainly didn’t expect this when I started, this has become a favorite series, and I’m very much looking forward to seeing what Bujold does in a fantasy world, as I head into her World of the Five Gods series (of which the second, Paladin of Souls, is the next Hugo Best Novel book on my list). (It’s a good sign that both the Vorkosigan Saga and the World of the Five Gods series have won Best Series Hugos….)

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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Book 30 of 2025: ⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️

In a fitting bookend for a series that began with a sci-fi romance between a military officer and a planetary surveyor, it ends with something essentially the same, even to one of the same characters. Much less adventuresome or military than others, this is more of a pleasant, comfortable wrap up for the series, bringing it back to where it started while checking in with many of the remaining characters. While the stories certainly good go on if Bujold chose to write more, this is also a very worthy ending to the series itself.

Me holding Gentleman Jole and the Red Queen

Mirrored from Eclecticism.

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- I get to go back on HRT, THANK G-D. This will, of course, be revisited after my next (really soon) MRI, but hallelujah, I'll have some relief from the hot flashes, brain fog, upswing of insomnia, hair loss, and random crying.

- Speaking of insomnia, this week has been rough. Even if I fall asleep at a "decent" time, my sleep is patchy and broken. Add that to the fact that I actually need somewhere around ten hours of sleep, and I've been an incoherent mess all week. Today I feel like I'm mildly drunk, but without the fun part.

[personal profile] minim_calibre and I decided YOLO and paid more money to get MUCH better seats for the My Chemical Romance concert. Did you know you could upgrade tickets purchased from Ticketmaster? I certainly didn't. But hey, a better view of the stage! I'm still sad that I'm going to see my precious cupcakes of bombast only one time on this tour ("only" omg I'm spoiled) but I'll cope. There's feverish speculation in the fanbase that maybe they'll preview songs from an unreleased album, or maybe they'll announce a new album. I love all this speculation, but I also believe none of it.

- Random perfume comment: If you love Goth Club 89 from the now-closed Whisper Sisters, Midnight Toker from Heretic Perfumes is a toned-down version of it. I hate the name, but the scent is lovely.

a meeting of the minds at the munch

Jun. 6th, 2025 03:03 pm
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I went to the women's munch at the Wildrose last night. Nothing unusual there, but who I ran into was: a table full of trans women in their late twenties. Trans women besides me are a regular feature at this munch, but they don't show up in a group and they're not especially young.

It's noteworthy for me because that's a trans age group that I don't typically spend much time with. There are the folks closer to my age and the teens at Lambert House, the Mercury, or (ahem) out & about, but trans women around my son's age are not the ones I usually run into. They had much to tell me:
  • There's a facial feminization surgeon around here, Dr. Liu, who does excellent work. That's something to think about if I'm ever an heiress.
  • There's been some drink-spiking at Pony lately. Uh, yikes! One or two of the assembled dolls weren't pleased with how it had been handled. That's a damn shame, because I'm one of many queers I know who otherwise love that place.
They seemed so... together. So much more than I was at their age, struggling mightily to be someone I'm not. From talking with them, at least briefly, you'd never guess that we're a community under seige.

And I'd also like to say how impressed I am with the current Washington State Ms. Leather and her partner, a former Ms. Leather, who organize this and many other shindigs. They work hard at pulling all of us non-cis-men into leather activities. Aside from warm fuzzies, there's nothing in it for them, really.

Nun remembers how to sleep.

Jun. 5th, 2025 09:51 am
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At the risk of jinxing things, I'm here to say that I've been sleeping unusually well lately. This is despite the days being nearly as long as they get around here above 47°N, and The Situation.

So why now? Well, it seems to be an annual cycle for me. My sleep sucks in February and March, but then gets better from there. The sunlight may indeed be part of it. I did recently turn off the HVAC for the whole house because it's the time of year when open windows do the job. Maybe less noise helps.
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 (Threat level: MCR lyrics as post titles)

Work is still :: hands :: 

I've talked to some other folks, cone of silence engaged, about how to get better at communication with boss lady. I feel pretty confident now, but who  knows how long that will last. 

One funny thing about all of those conversations: apparently very few people realize how many people I manage. In the writing/design/research ... community at work, the only person who manages more people than me is my boss. Ahahahahaha.

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The Seattle MCR concert is next month! I had an outfit idea which involves being sleeveless. Cue the Body Image Demons. In an attempt to shut them up, I turned to Tumblr for a pep talk and my G-D did they deliver.  I think my favorite tag responses from reblogs were "I'm not sure if I want to fuck you or be you" and "Not to be a lesbian but omg omg omg omg"

So YES, I will wear my planned outfit and not give a fuck about my flabby arms. My therapist will be very proud of me.

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There's apparently a goth book club starting up near me! I'm going to do my damndest to attend, because it sounds like a great idea. There's dancing at the venue after the book club is over. Part of me wants to stay for that, but it's all on a Sunday night, so I should probably be a responsible adult and head home after book club. Dammit, I hate being a responsible adult.

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